The One About "You're a Wonderful Man...but..."
After dinner last Thursday, and then a gym workout and coffee Saturday, the waiter from the Thai restaurant, "Jim" decided I was a wonderful man...but he's not ready for a relationship.
Whoa! Hold the phone!
I was under the impression we were hanging out, getting to know each other as friends, with no expectations whatsoever. Apparently that's gay code for 'i want to marry you, let's pick out china patterns.' Or maybe since we didn't sleep together the first, second, or third time we met, it signaled something more significant.
Either way, I'm more annoyed at the over-reaction than anything.
On Saturday evening, Tom suggested I call him when I get back to town New Year's Day. I did. He didn't answer, so I left a voicemail inviting him out to dinner. Hours later, he sends a text saying "W" I think you're a wonderful man, but I"m not ready for a relationship. I hope you understand." He got out of a three year long term relationship about 9 months ago.
Ok fine whatever. I replied with a text saying I didn't even know we were 'dating', I thought we were just hanging out getting to know each other, but it seems as if we were on different pages. If you want to just be friends, that's fine with me.
Good thing having better luck with men isn't a resolution of mine this year.
posted by "W" @ 8:41 PM
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8 Comments:
Well, at least you have two men who think you're "wonderful," lol.
I had to laugh at the "gay code" thing...see, just "hanging out, getting to know each other as friends, with no expectations whatsoever" is straight code for "I like you, but not that much."
'Course, I'm a little cynical.
Wow. I had no idea we were "not dating" the same guy.
MQB: I wonder what the bi code is... maybe like the da Vinci code? YES! Tom Cruise was in it...it makes perfect sense.
Kevin: We are dating the same guy?!?!? Cheating bastard.
I almost didn't post because I thought it would sound like I was whining. Kev glad you and I aren't this f***ed up ;-)
Have you seen "The DaVinci Load" yet? It's supposed to be good.
Men are 'tards. Nuff said.
Guess my Celebration of Celebacy doesn't seem so crazy, now, huh?
Men are pigs with only one thing on their minds.
I swear this is why some men go straight.
Kev: No I haven't seen the DaVinci Load. Perhaps we should view it together?
Which would prevent...
Dirk: I'm not laughing, never did, but I may need to join you on your Celibacy Tour 07.
Gay boys can be such crazy people at times.....me being one of them! Just found your site and will be back. Thanks for commenting on mine.
Lewis: Awe...you're too sweet. I came across "the spirit" awhile back through Kevin/Six/Actor. Really enjoy reading you...someday I want to grow up and be just like you. (well not just like...but i dream of the LTR, cute house, mostly great life, etc etc)
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