It's Over
I knew this post was coming for awhile now. Thom and I called it off last night. After four days of being nauseous and an emotional wreck, I actually feel good today. The waiting and uncertainty really took a toll on me.
Not to get too personal, it actually wasn't as bad as I thought. Thom doesn't necessarily want to date other people...he just doesn't want to date me. Ok yeah that sounds worse. We talked about how we built a good foundation to be really great friends and that there wasn't that extra element of spark that's there with a true romance/relationship. So we've decided to just be friends...and not the kind that says we'll be friends and never speak to each other. I can take some comfort that his friends (who are becoming my friends) were shocked and didn't understand why Thom wanted to end things. It's still an hour and thirty or so away, but I feel like I'm becoming a part of the church in the Big City, so I'm still going to go a few Sundays a month, and some of his friends have already invited me to stay with them on the weekends. It seems like I'm glossing over a lot of minor details, but it's hard to be mad or angry at Thom, because he is a nice guy and perhaps this is for the best.
So I'm healing, moving on, and looking forward to what's next for me in life.
Enjoy the start of a new week!
"W"
posted by "W" @ 9:02 AM
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I'm so sorry buddy. There are million more fish in the sea.
*Giant Hugs*
Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this. It had sounded like you guys were gonna make it. At least you're doing well and being really mature about it all.
I hope you do stay friends. It sucks when you truly do want to be friends and the other person is afraid you do only in the hopes you'll get back together so they end up being a dick about everything and then you're no longer talking before you know it. Yeah, can you tell this has happened to me before? Again, I hope it doesn't to you and you can stay friends.
Hugs from me too.
I'm so proud of you for not being bitter and wanting to be friends -- you're such a good man.
Me...I'm a jaded bitch.
Like everyone else, big hugs.
the persian: yup, his friends told him i was a great catch and didn't know why he was throwing me back out there. hope you have better luck with your new 'friend'. i know it's early, but you really deserve someone special.
katrina: you get an extra big hug for being so sweet. yes, i truly hope we can continue our friendship. this weekend i'm heading up for church, so it'll be the first test.
dirk: smooches and a big gay hug to you for listening and emailing and caring. it means a ton knowing you're on my side. i want to be a jaded bitch about this, so i can get mad and get over it...but i can't be mad at him for stuff.
Thanks to all for your support!
Don't know if this will make you feel better or not, but here goes:
I had a lover once (not, of course, Lover...just a lover), and we decided to be "just friends"...and 11 years later, we are still friends -in fact, I consider him to be one of my very best friends....and when I think back on things (as I do occasionally), I think: damn, I'm sooo glad we aren't still together in "that way"...
*hugs*
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